|Will Ferrell in "Kicking and Screaming." Based on|
a true story...in pretty much every city in the US.
Anyway, here at The Winner's Edge, I am all about analyzing and understanding what winners do. However, I feel compelled to write about when winning no longer matters. Personally, I am as competitive as it comes. Let's make that very, very clear. I do not like to lose, it haunts my dreams when I do.
When does winning really make a difference? We can point to business, or politics. In school, when competing for grades and college admissions. Elite level athletes focus on winning, since that's what they get paid to help their teams do. Notice that most of these things are high-teen/adult endeavors, and those skills are cultivated through development as youths (13-under). Additionally, at this point, winning is the expectation, since requisite skills have been developed, as has a winning psyche. The question is, however: can we hold these expectations for youth athletes? I certainly do not, nor do I think anyone who is involved with youth athletics should.
|This, from the ultimate champion John Wooden.|
Consider for a moment your experience in school. When you were studying math, did you multiply before you could add? Did you do fractions before you worked with whole numbers? Of course not, that's ludicrous...but why? Most of you will probably say, "well you need to know how to do addition before you can multiply!" Yes, exactly. How can we expect young people:
- who do not have the fundamentals mastered, to pass their tests?
- who are not confident in their abilities to perform, to be able to work independently and learn from their mistakes?
- who are from different backgrounds to work together to solve a complex problem at varying, low, skill levels?